I have 51 years old living with a 32 years old i being with him 1 year in 2 months but he got proble

Dear patient,

I understand that you are going through an emotionally complex and painful situation. The first thing I want to tell you is that your feelings are valid. It is completely understandable that you feel hurt, confused, and perhaps insecure after witnessing what you described.

There are several aspects to address in this scenario. First, masturbation in itself is a normal and natural behavior, but what concerns you more is the lack of sexual intimacy between you and the fact that he was intoxicated while looking at images of naked women. This can make you feel rejected or undesired, and it’s something that needs to be discussed openly and honestly.

You also mentioned that he has alcohol problems, which may be affecting not only his sexual behavior but also his ability to emotionally connect with you. Alcohol abuse is a serious issue that can negatively impact relationships, communication, and intimacy. If he is willing, it would be important to seek professional help to address this, as alcohol addiction may be interfering with many aspects of his life, including his relationship with you.

I would recommend having a conversation with him when he is calm and sober, expressing your feelings without accusations. It’s important that both of you can communicate your needs and concerns respectfully. You might also consider couples therapy, where you can work together to improve your relationship, communication, and intimacy. If his alcohol problem is severe, individual or group therapy for him could also be very helpful.

Remember that your worth is not solely based on physical or sexual attraction, and a healthy relationship should include not only sexual intimacy but also respect, mutual support, and communication. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help if you feel you need more support during this process.

I hope you find clarity and strength in this situation.

Best regards,
Dr. Marc Agraz